Sex: It’s Getting Better All the Time

by Natasha Moore

I’ve been asked why I write seasoned romances. After all, current wisdom states there isn’t a market for romances featuring characters past the first bloom of youth. And certainly not if the woman is past child-bearing age. Apparently, women only want to read about young love, no matter what age they are. And they certainly don’t want to read about older people having sex. Older people don’t even have sex, do they?

Of course they do. Of course we do.

Not only do we still have sex when we’re out of our twenties, we still enjoy sex. A lot. As we get older, we can even enjoy sex more than we used to when we were younger. I’ve talked with many women over the age of forty and a great majority agree with me.

When you’re young and have just discovered sex, you can’t imagine it being any better. Face it, you can’t even imagine being older. Instead of being turned off by the idea of people forty, fifty, sixty, and above still having sex, rejoice that, yes, you’ll still get to have sex, too.

Generalizations are always tricky. Sure, there are people whose teens, twenties, and thirties were the best times of their lives. They’ve had the best sex of their lives. But if you’re there now, I have to say – I hope not. Because if you’re lucky, you’ll have way more years ahead of you than you’ve lived so far, and I think it would be sad if your best days were already behind you. And really, wouldn’t you rather be looking forward to the rest of your life, sex and all?

“Older people don’t even have sex, do they?”

Before I left my day job, I worked with younger women who worked full time, raised children, kept house, were exhausted every night, complaining their husbands wanted sex. I remember those years, but guess what? Once the kids weren’t as much work, I looked forward to sex again. What a difference it makes when you’re not exhausted. I’m older, but I’m not all that tired.

It’s generally easier to find time for nookie when you’re older, too. You don’t have to worry about trying to sneak a shag after the kids have gone to bed, rushing through it in case one of them wakes up. But I will warn you, even if you’re enjoying an afternoon delight, the possibility of one of your adult children ringing the doorbell and walking in is always there. Lock the door first.

“I lost my heart to Lakeside and this wonderful mature-but-playful love story!”

—JessT, Amazon Reviewer

But once that door is locked, relax. Sure, you can still try new things in the bedroom – go for it – but as you get older you may find you don’t have anything to prove. You’re more confident, and also more forgiving. Sex doesn’t have to be perfect every time. And even if it’s not always wild, it can still be uninhibited. Relax and enjoy.

I’m no sex expert. When I met the man who would become my husband, I was nineteen, a naïve virgin. It was years before I was comfortable experimenting and I have romance novels, erotic romance in particular, to thank for that. I learned other people had the same fantasies I did, and it was okay to wonder about things I’d never heard anyone talk about in real life. And it was okay to try a few of them out. And I enjoyed sex a whole lot more.

So why do I write romances with older characters? First, so older women can find themselves in the pages of these books, experience the joy of women their ages finding love and enjoying hot sex, too. But I also write seasoned romance so readers who aren’t there yet can see that even once there are a few more candles on their birthday cakes, they can still be vibrant, passionate people. And believe sex keeps getting better all the time.

About Natasha Moore

Natasha Moore fell in love with the written word as soon as she could read. She started writing her own stories back in grade school and hasn’t stopped since. After suffering through too many books with not enough kissing scenes, she discovered romance, and her addiction to happy endings was born. She’s the author of more than twenty novels, novellas, and short stories, and believes that stories of love and hope are important. Love can happen at any age and she often writes about vibrant, passionate characters finding love later in life. She’s a snowbird and spends the winters in sunny Florida, missing her grandchildren but not the snow. The rest of the year she lives in beautiful western New York with her real life hero who is happy to tell everyone that he’s her inspiration.

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